--Practical Steps Towards Healing After A Divorce--
By Cassidy Nichol--
Changing trends mean that, while divorce is more widely accepted than ever before, it is actually becoming less popular, with an 18% drop off in the divorce rate between 2006 and 2018. Despite this, almost 50% of all marriages will end in divorce or separation. Heartbreak is one of life's greatest challenges, with widowers 40% more likely to die within six months of their spouse passing away. If you aren't prepared to cope with a divorce, then you could suffer badly. Fortunately, there are a few practical steps you can take to ease the transition from being a married person to being happily single.
Get The Financial Stuff Out The Way
Getting divorced can be a long and laborious process, so try and get through as much of the technical side as quickly as you can. Regardless of the emotional trauma and loss of love to deal with, separation as an older couple will mean dealing with plenty of complicated finances that need to be sorted, such as determining whose savings are whose. These little details can be a good way to occupy your mind in the early stages. Once it’s over, you have relieved much of the stress, and can focus your energy on emotional healing.
Have A Healthy Relationship To Clearing Out Meaningful Objects
There is a place called the Museum of Broken Relationships, which displays items lost during a breakup. In one sense, the museum is attempting to cleanse these objects of painful memories. However, there is also a recognition that these things can’t just disappear, so it is an attempt to freeze the object in time, making it a permanent reminder of history. When clearing out meaningful items, remember that the relationship will always exist as something that was. You can move on, but have a healthy relationship with the reality of the past.
Enjoy Being Single And Form Positive New Relationships
Divorce should never be about loss, but about what you gain. It is an opportunity to explore a new life for yourself, and form new relationships. These don’t need to be romantic relationships straight away; instead, try making friends who add positivity to your life, or reconnecting with family members. One relationship may have ended, but bringing in plenty of high quality new ones will ease some of the emotional pain. Finding love elsewhere, be that romantic or platonic, will keep your heart from breaking.
Getting divorced is never easy, but it doesn’t have to break you. Power through the legal and financial aspects so that you can focus on having a healthy and positive break. This is a time for new trying new things and meeting new people who will enhance your life and well-being. Search for love elsewhere, and embrace all the positivity you can receive from the rest of humanity.
photo by kelly-sikkema on unsplash
NEXT
