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DatingNews.com

Bad news sells papers, but it isn’t the full story. Dr. Fisher spoke with the team at DatingNews.comabout her research in Match’s Singles in America study. Her research shows that since the start of the COVID-19 pandemic, more singles are looking for committed, long-term relationships based in love. She shared her findings and how those… Read more »

Can we boost dopamine for a little more romance and sex?

    People often ask us if they can boost the dopamine in their brain in hopes of boosting passionate love and having better sex.  Here, we find out from an Integrative Medicine psychiatrist-author and her colleagues about nutrients like vitamins and minerals and particular foods that might do that. _________________________________________________________________________ As Helen Fisher, Ph.D…. Read more »

Valentine’s Day- Thinking about gifts

  With Valentine’s Day fast approaching, think joy: give a gift.  We have some ideas for a gift for your full-time partner, or dating partner.  Or a relative.  Or a child.  The New York Times’ series called “Wirecutter” has a great list of gifts.  I am putting some of their choices below.  You can easily… Read more »

Kissing with love

Love is a beautiful thing and one of the ways we show just how much we care for our partner is through a kiss. There are more than a dozen different types of kisses and all of them mean different things. For example, a forehead kiss is a sweet way to show your partner that… Read more »

Helen Fisher’s Observations for Making the Best of Lockdown

Lockdown…A Time For Love? June, 2020 By: Helen Fisher We weren’t built to live 24/7 with a lover.  For millions of years men regularly set off to hunt, sometimes for days.  And women went gathering and often visited friends or family in another camp for weeks.  We are a nomadic species—built to leave home regularly… Read more »

Helen Fisher writes in the NY Times-dating

How Coronavirus Is Changing the Dating Game for the Better Video chats are in. Small talk is out. You don’t have to fret about who picks up the check. And maybe the biggest plus: You’re forced to take things slow. https://www.nytimes.com/2020/05/07/well/mind/dating-coronavirus-love-relationships.html?auth=login-google    

Helen Fisher Zoom: Dating in the Time of COVID-19

Helen Fisher, PhD, biological anthropologist and senior research fellow at the Kinsey Institute, discusses how to date during a quarantine, the advantages and disadvantages of “virtual dating,” and more with Science Writers In New York (SWINY) co-chair David Levine. Helen Says, this zoom interview is a very positive view of the lockdown situation, and will… Read more »

Sex satisfaction: our brains and our genes

Sex satisfaction in a romantic relationship.  We all know that’s important.  We pretty much take it for granted.  Yes, sex supports our species, but it also contributes a lot to our quality of life, to our feelings of well-being and to the quality of our relationship with our partner.  We depend a lot on our… Read more »

The anatomy of love and hope- Love, from Helen

March 24, 2020- As we all sit at home to avoid COVID-19 and hope for good health… GET HAPPY:  the “Meaningful Life” in love and in everyday events  When we fall in love, life has meaning and hope is automatic.  But also prayers, betting parlors, doctor’s appointments, monuments, diets, holidays, college degrees, lottery tickets, Valentine’s… Read more »

Marriage Proposals for Nature Lovers

By Cassidy Nichol Amazing Marriage Proposals For Nature Lovers It’s no wonder that so many weddings take place outdoors. Nature reduces stress, improves our mood, and even enhances spirituality – that sense of belonging to a greater force than oneself – which could be God or could simply be Love. Nature is a subject of fascination for… Read more »

Master the Art of Relationship Gifting

How To Master The Art Of Relationship Gifting- By Cassidy Nichol- Around 20% of Americans admit to rarely or never feeling close to people, while 46% say they sometimes or always feel alone. Research shows that for some people a lack of social relationships can increase risk of death by as much as 50%. That’s equivalent to smoking… Read more »

Love, Heartbreak, Divorce and Healing- Practical steps for a common experience

  –Practical Steps Towards Healing After A Divorce–   By Cassidy Nichol– Changing trends mean that, while divorce is more widely accepted than ever before, it is actually becoming less popular, with an 18% drop off in the divorce rate between 2006 and 2018. Despite this, almost 50% of all marriages will end in divorce or separation…. Read more »

Dating Advice

Here at the anatomy of love we don’t give dating advice. But there is a great site called datingadvice.com that we can recommend to you. Their editor-in-chief, Hayley Matthews, interviewed us and published a nice summary about us and this website. She describes how we use scientific research to answer questions about relationships. She tells… Read more »

The Four Types of Love Addiction

Romantic love is heavily associated with the same regions of the brain as drug addiction. Those who have it experience the same intensely pleasurable feelings, while those who are deprived of it experience the same crashing emotional lows and cravings. Consequently, it is fair to say that love is an addiction. Whether it is positive… Read more »

The Phases of Rejection

It is, perhaps, one of nature’s cruelest ironies that the drive for love is every bit as primal as the drive for food and water, yet virtually no one makes it through the game of love unscathed. In fact, research shows that nearly 100% of people have been spurned by someone they deeply loved, and… Read more »

How the Intellect Affects Partner Choice

The argument regarding intellectual differences between men and women has raged for centuries, and it’s showing no signs of slowing down in our modern, post-feminist world. Few today would agree with Charles Darwin, who postulated in 1871 that men were inherently more intelligent than women due to the evolutionary need to hunt, attack enemies, and… Read more »

Adultery and Religion

In today’s society, the concept of adultery seems pretty cut and dried. It is generally defined as engaging in sexual behavior outside of one’s marriage. The majority of Americans also include romantic overtures that do not culminate in sex—the so-called “emotional affair.” Yet adultery has been defined in many ways throughout history. Many, though not… Read more »

Singles in America 2017- Love and Dating

Dr. Helen Fisher leads and analyzes the Singles in America Studies carried out by Match.com for the past 7 years.  Each year, five thousand participants who are not Match clients answer questions that Helen and others at Match choose.  The Match group had specific questions in mind this year, like how are Millenials different from others… Read more »

Love In the Movies: First Impressions Can Be So Wrong

Watch the movie Pride and Prejudice to learn about slow love and how it can happen. Learn how a  first-date impression can be so wrong.  Someone you dislike can turn out to be that special person you marry.  What makes the people in the relationships in this movie compatible? Pride and Prejudice 2005 Starring Keira Knightley, Matthew Macfadyen,… Read more »

The 5 Stages of Courtship

stages of courtship Have you ever met someone to whom you felt immediately drawn? Chances are, without even realizing it was happening, you slipped into an unconscious, new yet oddly familiar social dance with that person. Although every couple and every situation is different, science shows that we all follow the same basic patterns when showing and receiving… Read more »

Body Talk and Flirting

Body Talk and Flirting Flirting is a complex but highly necessary social ritual. Without flirting, prospective mates would find it difficult or impossible to build the framework necessary for a long-lasting and loving relationship. Many people claim not to know how to flirt, but research shows that flirting is actually a deeply ingrained and instinctive pattern of behavior. Here… Read more »