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Successful Relationships and How to Keep Them

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On this website, we are always looking for “keys” to successful relationships.  We made a video called Six Relationsip Keys.  But there are actually many more than ‘six’ keys.  One website that gives a lot of great relationship help, and keys, is  the Sternberg Center for successful relationships, or https://lovemultiverse.com. Relationships are fun– and require… Read more »

Worldwide Infidelity, Adultery, Philandering–What does it mean?

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Infidelity: A Practitioner’s Guide To Working With Couples Interview with Dr. Helen Fisher Eds. Paul R Peluso and Taylor J. Irvine In P. Peluso & T. Irvine (Eds.), Infidelity: A practitioner’s guide to working with couples in crisis (2nd ed.). Routledge The interview explores Adultery and  “What does It Mean?” for couples Dr. Helen Fisher, Ph.D.,… Read more »

The Power of Love Summit 2024

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Join Helen Fisher, Lucy Brown, Tara Brach, Sharon Salzberg, Deepak Chopra, Jane Fonda, Marianne Williamson,  Michael Beckwith and many more… We are happy to announce an extraordinary event put together by our friends at Wisdom for Life, an event that we know is going to help a lot of people… We invite you to join… Read more »

The Perfect Wedding Plan

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  Planning your wedding can be a huge amount of fun. While it’s fun, it comes with its own share of difficulties, such as disagreeing with your partner and family on aspects of the ceremony and party.  You have many choices.     Here are some tips.  They involve nurturing your relationship while planning the… Read more »

Taylor Swift Heartbreak Songs

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April 19, 2024.  A Cosmopolitan UK Editor alerted me to Taylor Swift’s new album and one of the songs about heartbreak, So Long London.  A line in the song is, “I stopped CPR, after all it’s no use The spirit was gone, we would never come to.” Indeed, the end of the relationship was like… Read more »

DatingNews.com

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Bad news sells papers, but it isn’t the full story. Dr. Fisher spoke with the team at DatingNews.comabout her research in Match’s Singles in America study. Her research shows that since the start of the COVID-19 pandemic, more singles are looking for committed, long-term relationships based in love. She shared her findings and how those… Read more »

Can we boost dopamine for a little more romance and sex?

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    People often ask us if they can boost the dopamine in their brain in hopes of boosting passionate love and having better sex.  Here, we find out from an Integrative Medicine psychiatrist-author and her colleagues about nutrients like vitamins and minerals and particular foods that might do that. _________________________________________________________________________ As Helen Fisher, Ph.D…. Read more »

Valentine’s Day- Thinking about gifts

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  With Valentine’s Day fast approaching, think joy: give a gift.  We have some ideas for a gift for your full-time partner, or dating partner.  Or a relative.  Or a child.  The New York Times’ series called “Wirecutter” has a great list of gifts.  I am putting some of their choices below.  You can easily… Read more »

Kissing with love

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Love is a beautiful thing and one of the ways we show just how much we care for our partner is through a kiss. There are more than a dozen different types of kisses and all of them mean different things. For example, a forehead kiss is a sweet way to show your partner that… Read more »

Helen Fisher’s Observations for Making the Best of Lockdown

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Lockdown…A Time For Love? June, 2020 By: Helen Fisher We weren’t built to live 24/7 with a lover.  For millions of years men regularly set off to hunt, sometimes for days.  And women went gathering and often visited friends or family in another camp for weeks.  We are a nomadic species—built to leave home regularly… Read more »

Helen Fisher writes in the NY Times-dating

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How Coronavirus Is Changing the Dating Game for the Better Video chats are in. Small talk is out. You don’t have to fret about who picks up the check. And maybe the biggest plus: You’re forced to take things slow. https://www.nytimes.com/2020/05/07/well/mind/dating-coronavirus-love-relationships.html?auth=login-google    

Helen Fisher Zoom: Dating in the Time of COVID-19

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Helen Fisher, PhD, biological anthropologist and senior research fellow at the Kinsey Institute, discusses how to date during a quarantine, the advantages and disadvantages of “virtual dating,” and more with Science Writers In New York (SWINY) co-chair David Levine. Helen Says, this zoom interview is a very positive view of the lockdown situation, and will… Read more »

Sex satisfaction: our brains and our genes

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Sex satisfaction in a romantic relationship.  We all know that’s important.  We pretty much take it for granted.  Yes, sex supports our species, but it also contributes a lot to our quality of life, to our feelings of well-being and to the quality of our relationship with our partner.  We depend a lot on our… Read more »

The anatomy of love and hope- Love, from Helen

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March 24, 2020- As we all sit at home to avoid COVID-19 and hope for good health… GET HAPPY:  the “Meaningful Life” in love and in everyday events  When we fall in love, life has meaning and hope is automatic.  But also prayers, betting parlors, doctor’s appointments, monuments, diets, holidays, college degrees, lottery tickets, Valentine’s… Read more »

Marriage Proposals for Nature Lovers

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By Cassidy Nichol Amazing Marriage Proposals For Nature Lovers It’s no wonder that so many weddings take place outdoors. Nature reduces stress, improves our mood, and even enhances spirituality – that sense of belonging to a greater force than oneself – which could be God or could simply be Love. Nature is a subject of fascination for… Read more »

Master the Art of Relationship Gifting

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How To Master The Art Of Relationship Gifting- By Cassidy Nichol- Around 20% of Americans admit to rarely or never feeling close to people, while 46% say they sometimes or always feel alone. Research shows that for some people a lack of social relationships can increase risk of death by as much as 50%. That’s equivalent to smoking… Read more »

Love, Heartbreak, Divorce and Healing- Practical steps for a common experience

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  –Practical Steps Towards Healing After A Divorce–   By Cassidy Nichol– Changing trends mean that, while divorce is more widely accepted than ever before, it is actually becoming less popular, with an 18% drop off in the divorce rate between 2006 and 2018. Despite this, almost 50% of all marriages will end in divorce or separation…. Read more »

Dating Advice

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Here at the anatomy of love we don’t give dating advice. But there is a great site called datingadvice.com that we can recommend to you. Their editor-in-chief, Hayley Matthews, interviewed us and published a nice summary about us and this website. She describes how we use scientific research to answer questions about relationships. She tells… Read more »

Singles in America 2017- Love and Dating

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Dr. Helen Fisher leads and analyzes the Singles in America Studies carried out by Match.com for the past 7 years.  Each year, five thousand participants who are not Match clients answer questions that Helen and others at Match choose.  The Match group had specific questions in mind this year, like how are Millenials different from others… Read more »

Love In the Movies: First Impressions Can Be So Wrong

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Watch the movie Pride and Prejudice to learn about slow love and how it can happen. Learn how a  first-date impression can be so wrong.  Someone you dislike can turn out to be that special person you marry.  What makes the people in the relationships in this movie compatible? Pride and Prejudice 2005 Starring Keira Knightley, Matthew Macfadyen,… Read more »

The 36 Questions- How to fall in love

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Because “the development of a close relationship is sustained, escalating, reciprocal, personal self-disclosure” researchers tried this series of 36 questions to induce romantic feelings.  They were partially successful.  It turns out that many people have used the questions to increase closeness in a current relationship. They had fun doing it.  You might like to try it. The… Read more »