What is companionate love?

What is companionate love?

  1. According to psychologist Robert Sternberg’s triangular theory of love, all forms of love are based on the interactions between three equal legs of a triangle: intimacy, commitment, and passion.

Companionate love is intimacy and commitment with little passion. It is a calm and warm love.  Although it is not necessarily the ideal, it can sustain long-term, loving romantic relationships. Companionate love is considered much more stable than passionate love.

Many couples go through a period of companionate love when they become new parents or go through other major life changes. Likewise, older couples with a shared lifetime of memories often live out their golden years in contented companionate love.

For most people, though, passion is a major drive, and relationships that lack it are at risk for one or both partners straying. Fortunately, passion can be rebuilt with a bit of hard work, through shared novel or intense experiences.

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